She said I betrayed her and that I didn’t want to be with her/love her etc
I received a call while hanging out with her. It was a girl that wanted to hang out. One that I have known for a few months (post gf). Anyway I told the girlfriend who was on the phone and she flipped out!
She can’t believe that I gave the girl my number or that the girl had mine. The fact I talked to the girl was probably the part the upset her the most.
To me this seems very strange as we have been together for 4 years and I have never cheated on her or broken her trust.
What do I do? I am willing to not see any more girls period (to be with her). But this seems just a tad extreme to me. Am I wrong?
I’m surprised that you’re willing not to see any more girls, period, just to be with her. Admittedly, four years is a long time, but this is one of those things that’s worth putting up a fight against. She’s trying to cow you into disregarding half of the planet, simply to soothe her neuroticism and paranoia.
And I really don’t like the idea of my girlfriend being the only girl I ever know (she is my first and only good female relationship atm)
She needs to get over this, and not just with regards to this specific person. If she can’t figure out a way to override her insecurities with her trust in you, there are more serious problems than the remote possibility that you’d even consider cheating on her. posted by Picklegnome at 4:23 PM on
These are all symptoms of an abusive relationship
In my experience, a lot of women will explain this away as a jealousy issue, but it is completely about control. I can guarantee that the next thing to happen will be her monitoring your phone calls, messages, and email. She will attempt to guilt you with hysterics and waterworks at every opportunity.
Speaking as a woman who has lots of straight male friends, including a few single ones, and whose husband has lots of straight female friends, including quite a few single ones (sadly, none of the former are right for the latter, otherwise we could be getting our matchmaker on). (more…)